After a great coffee chat with a GS TMT VP, I sent a thank-you email and connected on LinkedIn. Now what? The community’s 30-60-90 day system gets mentioned, but what EXACTLY should each touchpoint contain to build mentorship without seeming transactional? Examples of value-add updates that don’t look like thinly veiled job begs?
90 day rule is fantasy. here’s reality: wait till they post some nonsense on linkedin about ‘innovation in banking’ then comment with an actual example from their 2017 deals. they’ll dm you within 2 days wanting to look smart. boom - reconnect initiated
Day 30: Share an article relevant to their current deals with 2-sentence analysis. Day 60: Update on how you implemented their advice. Day 90: Request brief call to discuss their thoughts on [industry trend]. Maintain ratio of 3 value-giving contacts per 1 ask.
Stay positive! A genuine ‘saw this and thought of our convo’ note shows you care. Relationships take time 
I sent my mentor a Bloomberg screenshot of her first big deal’s current performance 6 months later. She invited me to her team meeting! Sometimes nostalgia beats formal follow-ups.