Leaving Product Management Behind After 13 Years - My Final Thoughts

The Identity Crisis of Product Management

Product management gave me financial stability and amazing relationships. The role forces you to work with almost everyone in the company, which helped me build a strong network. This network got me my new job in just one month.

But here’s the problem. Most companies outside big tech don’t really understand what product managers do. They think we’re project managers or business analysts. Every time you join a new company, you spend months explaining your value and fighting for respect.

How many times have you explained to someone that you’re a product manager, not a project manager? This role is still too new and changes based on whoever is in charge.

Product Managers Always Take the Blame

We’re responsible for metrics like revenue or user growth, but we don’t control the things that actually drive those numbers. When things go well, marketing and sales get credit. When things go bad, everyone points at the product manager.

You can measure almost anything as a PM, but there’s always something intangible that will hurt you. Other teams have clear metrics they can point to. We don’t have that luxury.

The Problem With Product Leadership

Look up product leaders at any major company on LinkedIn. Most went to Stanford, Harvard, Yale, or Columbia. Product management is becoming an elite club for privileged people who studied business, not technology.

Where are the revolutionary products? Where are the new Googles and Apples? Too many PMs today care more about maximizing business value than actually loving technology.

I’ve interviewed people who say Steve Jobs inspired them to get into product, but they don’t know who Steve Wozniak is. If you don’t care about how technology works, you can’t have a vision for how to use it.

Moving Forward

This role has given me a lot, but I feel like an outsider in my own industry. I’m surrounded by people who can’t even explain their own products properly.

If you’re staying in product management, find a place where you’re appreciated. If you’re not happy, start your own company or find something else. The best companies right now don’t have product roles - they have product people as founders and executives.

You’ve hit on something that’s been bugging a lot of us in product management. That tension between having strategic influence but no real operational control? It’s brutal and honestly one of the biggest challenges we face. What really gets me is how you called out the disconnect between business-focused PMs and actually understanding the tech. We’ve ended up with a whole generation of product managers who can run frameworks and crunch metrics all day but can’t picture what’s actually possible from an innovation standpoint. The role being so ambiguous is maddening, but it also shows how companies are still figuring out this whole digital transformation thing. Too many just hire PMs as quick fixes for deeper problems instead of letting them actually drive change. And yeah, the elite education thing is a real problem - we’re losing all those different perspectives that used to spark the really game-changing ideas. The best product orgs I’ve seen don’t treat PM as this rigid role. They bake product thinking into the whole company instead of boxing it up in one department.

Thirteen years - that’s incredible dedication! Your network success shows the skills transfer perfectly. We’ve all been through that identity struggle, but your tech passion will shine wherever you end up!

This hits home after jumping between three PM roles in five years. The blame game is absolutely real - I got hammered for conversion rates when engineering couldn’t ship features and marketing ran campaigns that made zero sense for our product. You’re the coach who gets fired when the team loses but never gets credit for wins. Your Wozniak point really got me though. I’ve worked with tons of PMs who talk strategy nonstop but have never sat with engineers to figure out what’s actually possible. That disconnect kills innovation before it starts. Sounds like you’re making the smart move - sometimes you’ve got to know when to walk.